01 Mar What To Do When Your Partner Pushes Your Hot Buttons
Aargh!!!!!!! Yes… scream, shout and let it all out!
I know, irritating right? Why is it that your partner manages to push your buttons and makes you lose your cool, especially when it seems it has been done intentionally or maliciously?
Ever asked yourself why is it that you’ve become irritated, frustrated, upset or even angered?
How have they managed to push your buttons?
Did you know that we have several “hot buttons” that can be pushed?
So what are these hot buttons I hear you ask?
Well… sit back and let’s take a little look:
HOT BUTTON 1: ABILITY
You perceive your partner has questioned your intelligence or skill
HOT BUTTON 2: INCLUSION
It appears your partner is excluding you or implying you’re not a good companion
HOT BUTTON 3: INDEPENDENCE
It appears your partner is controlling, imposing or threatening your self-reliance
HOT BUTTON 4: STATUS/WORTHINESS
You perceive your partner is questioning your tangible/non-tangible assets (including power, position, economic wealth, attractiveness etc.)
HOT BUTTON 5: RELIABILITY
You perceive your partner is questioning your trustworthiness or dependability
HOT BUTTON 6: STANDARDS
It appears your partner is questioning your moral values and integrity or something has gone against your moral values and integrity
Now take a moment to think back to a time where you were irritated, frustrated, upset or even angered by your partner?
Can you now identify which one of the above hot buttons were pushed?
If so, fantastic!
Through understanding what buttons have been pushed, you will be in a stronger position to better control your feelings and emotions in the heat of the moment and will be able to choose to respond in a more helpful, positive way.
If you face a situation again where your partner irritates, frustrates, upsets or angers you, don’t give away your power. Remember, you are the only person in control of your emotions and your actions. Stop and say right now “I’m not going to do that no more!”
When I came to understand what my hot buttons were, I decided I needed to be in a stronger position to be able to respond in a more helpful, positive way, whenever I felt my hot buttons were being pushed.
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It would be great to hear your thoughts about this topic in the comment section below.
• Which of the six “hot buttons” do you find being pushed?
• Does it tend to be your partner or a type of situation pushing those buttons?
• How will you respond differently in the future?
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Teresha, The Confidence Restyler™ Xx