01 Apr How To Deal With Rejection
How do you deal with rejection?
Rejection is a biggie isn’t it?
It can really hurt…
To feel unwanted, not acknowledged, unappreciated or even unloved.
Rejection can occur at any time in our lives and in so many types of situations.
For example, you may feel rejected if…
- Your significant other brings your relationship to an end.
- Someone you’re dating suddenly ghosts you.
- Your job application is unsuccessful.
- You give someone a gift and they don’t like it.
But have you ever thought that any rejection is simply a redirection to something more wonderful for you???
As upsetting or frustrating as it might be, perhaps the rejection is for your protection to keep you from anything or anyone that is not going to help you be the best version of yourself and live your best life?
Whilst any rejection can be painful, some instances of rejection may be more impactful than others.
Because most people crave security, acceptance and acknowledgement from others, being rejected can provoke negative feelings and emotions.
When the rejecting is done by someone we care about, it can really impact our self-worth and self-confidence.
An article in ‘Psychology Today’ states that MRI studies show that the same areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. This is why rejection hurts so much.
We can easily fall into the trap of thinking there’s something wrong with us, which then sends us on a mission to seek and destroy our self-esteem by finding fault in ourselves, our perceived “inadequacies”…
We start blaming ourselves and attacking our self-worth, which only increases the emotional pain we feel and making it harder for us to move on.
But remember, it’s important not to put everything that happens on yourself.
The other person will have their reasons for making their decision and as hurtful as it may be, that’s their prerogative.
You can claim back your power in the situation by seeing rejection as a way of teaching and redirecting you to people, places, things and opportunities that are sometimes better than you could have even imagined!
Reframe your mind to see that it is not happening to you, it is HAPPENING FOR YOU!
So here are 3 WAYS TO DEAL WITH REJECTION:
Rather than associating yourself with the rejection, or the pain, it can be helpful to dissociate yourself from the situation by separating what happened, from who you are as a person.
Speak kind encouraging words to yourself.
If you were speaking to someone who had turned to you as a shoulder to cry on as they had experienced rejection. What would you say to them to help them to feel better?
Would you tell them that they deserved it and that they were worthless, unlovable or not good enough?
If you wouldn’t say it to them, why would you say it to yourself?
It’s so important that you don’t beat yourself up for whatever happened and instead remember your worth.
You are precious like a diamond!
2. Find the lesson in the situation
As challenging as rejection might feel, it only feels devastating when you think it’ll last forever, especially if there are feelings of regret associated with it. My Making Moves Motivation video on ‘How to COPE WITH REGRET’ can help you to address those feelings: CLICK HERE TO ACCESS
There’s a quote from Vince Lombardi which is:
“It’s not whether you got knocked down; it’s whether you get back up.”
Rejection can be an excellent opportunity to find the lesson in the situation, so you can take a new and more promising approach to any problem or similar situations in the future.
It can help you to understand more about who you are and focus on what you truly desire and deserve.
See rejection as a means to bettering your skills such as resilience, strength, self-love and self-acceptance.
I like to say rejection is a setback that allows you to bounceback, so you can come back better and stronger than ever! BOOM!
As humans, we want to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance.
And when we get rejected, this becomes unstable and we can often feel lonely and disconnected, intensifying our emotional pain.
Connecting with those who care about you, or reaching out to people to which you feel a strong bond with, people who value you, appreciate you and accept you, has been found to ease emotional pain after a rejection.
It can help to boost your happiness and motivation to keep going.
Because you will have a focus on what you still have in life, the people, your passions, your interests…
And being grateful for all of these things is a wonderful way to shift your perspective, so you don’t dwell in feeling of rejection, but rather equip yourself to know that you’ve got this rejection “stuff” handled and like a phoenix, you will rise!
Check out the following Making Moves Motivation video: ‘How to BE MORE GRATEFUL’
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I hope you found this article beneficial. I would love to hear your thoughts on it! What experiences of rejection have you had? How did it impact you? How did you overcome it?
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Teresha, The Confidence Restyler™ Xx